While i was sitting in landmark , i was thinking as to why do we hate a person? Then i came up with an answer that it may be because of the person's behavior , reaction , thinking and habits. Well only these things came to my mind.Finally i came up with a matrix drawn below. May be there are more. I just wanted to generalize it. It happens with all of us almost every time because we have a general tendency of judging people knowingly or unknowingly.
But then is it that we can blame him/her for the same? Well as i got deeper into it and tried to look an answer for it, i did not find any reason to blame him/her.Reasons were several.There were different layers on pile of which the outcome sits and makes us like/dislike a person. I dont want to discuss the point of liking a person , rather opposite.
Let me copy an example from Stephen Covey book.I will be discussing it from different perspective. A father with his children came and sat in a garden .Children were behaving like monsters , disturbing everyone they came along.They were howling , shouting and creating nuisance.And their father was sitting without any attempt to calm down his children.When Stephen's patience broke down , he finally asked children's father as to why he is not stopping them from disturbing others.That person replied that children's mother and his beloved wife has expired few minutes back.And that they are not able to digest it.Now , how many times do we actually try to know a person if his reaction does not come under so called 'acceptable'. We simply dislike them and move forward.I dont think anybody wants to be disliked.Even if he wants to be disliked ,may be he had his past which made him behave or think like that.
Often we people, see the tip of an iceberg and react for the same and move forward.Rightly so , we dont have time for ourselves ,how can we simply view things from others perspective?But that does not give us any right to hate or dislike someone.I will share some more examples that will light the fact that we should not blame people for what they are not responsible.